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Say No to Body Shaming

Aloha fitness and wellness friends, 

Today I wanted to talk about something that I believe impacts lots of people. It is body shaming. 

Body shaming is refusing to love your body or trying to make others feel bad about their body. 

You see it on the internet. People troll others social media and make nasty comments. You see people trying to change what they look like through plastic surgery. You see people go to extremes to fit some mold that I am not sure who created. What is perfection? 

We have apps to airbrush away anything we see as an imperfection. 

Let me tell you, perfectionism is self abuse.

Perfectionism is rooted in the fear of not being good enough. It is a fruit of insecurity. It is a lie that if a person tries hard enough to be perfect they will not be rejected. It is a painful way to live. 


Yesterday I went shopping for clothes for a missionary friend (I do not enjoy shopping-unless it’s online-or gift for someone). Anywho, the ladies in the store spent 20 minutes talking about how they hated their bodies. Both were slim/average, yet they went on and on and on…

I noticed this trend with some women of not feeling good enough, beautiful enough, perfect enough, body shaming, hating something about themselves. 
I told them both I liked my body. They looked at me like I was some super wacko. Then they went on to talk about hating certain body parts that well I have more than they do in that area. 

My body not perfect, yet it gets the job done. It’s strong, man is it strong. It can box, kick box, krav maga, hold plank for several minutes, do push ups…it is healthy. I am healthy. Yet over the course of my life I have had people project body shame on me. 

One, I developed a curvy body pretty early on, maybe 14. I hated the way men looked at me. I grew ashamed of my curves, my coca cola shape and extra abundance in areas. I hated being sexualized. I was still a little girl, yet grown men were creepy and it made me want to hide my body. Even today, I hate being sexualized by men. 

I am an engineer/Research Scientist. I did an expo for my job a few weeks ago. I wore a dress, it covered everything up, it was professional. There were still men who came by and held conversations with my chest. They (my chest) do not talk. Some say men are wired this way. Yet I firmly believe it’s a lack of respect, self control, and viewing women as sex objects-our culture promotes it. 

I had to move past hating my body because men were being creepy. I also had to move past feeling less than from being around insecure women. You know the woman who is always insulting herself and you have the thing she is insulting herself about. She’s a size 4, you are a size 8 and she goes on for days about how fat she is. Gimmie a break!! It’s exhausting to deal with people who hate themselves. You have that one friend who has an inch of fat she keeps pinching and you want to scream, “Knock it off!!” 

Women talk about weight and appearance FAR, far, far more than men do. Why? Men can look like a train wreck and still think they are hot. Why are women constantly putting themselves down? Who started this trend? How can we kill it? 

God said I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Who argues with God? Jesus cannot lie. 

Ladies, that one inch of fat does not make you ugly

The ladies in the magazines, some, do not look like the photos. Photoshop and makeup are powerful. Trust me, I worked for Limited Brands. You can make anyone look amazing. Tools baby tools. 

I also work in a male environment, even when they don’t look good they are boasting about how awesome they are. They talk about how awesome they are. 

Some women put themselves down, while men (some) over exaggerate their qualities. Both need healthy confidence. Putting ourselves down and thinking more highly of ourselves than we should are both pride problems (extreme self focus). Both are vanity. 

Think of how much time is wasted criticizing oneself. What if we loved the bodies we are in and sought to make them as healthy as possible? How radical would that be! What if the focus was, “I love myself, therefore I eat healthy and workout“?

I will tell you shame does not produce a healthy life. It produces self destruction. Shame is hatred turned inwards. We were not created to hate ourselves or our bodies. We were created by God for love. Love sees the best. 

My encouragement is stop the body shaming. Ladies and gentlemen you are beautiful (handsome) right where you are. 

Homework: write on your bathroom mirror 

I am fearfully and wonderfully made!

Make positive body and self confessions. If you hear yourself degrading yourself or someone else, course correct and switch to love. Don’t worry about feelings. Feelings are not an indication of truth. Focus on feeding your mind truth and professing truth. Your feelings will catch up later! 

#saynotobodyshaming #loveyourself 

Photos pulled from Pinterest. 

Xoxo, 

Erin Lamb 

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Life After Whole30

I hope you gave Whole30 a shot. I did and do not regret it. I lost 14 pounds without exercising much. I did take my Whole30 further than the 30 days. I went for two rounds. Yet 7 pounds a month is great progress. It is healthy progress. 

If you did or are trying Whole30, I highly recommend easing back into eating non Whole30 foods. They provide guidance for reintroducing foods-one group at a time. I started with some grains, example corn. I was okay with grains. Then I tried dairy. Ummmmm…my stomach hated it. So I am less prone to eat dairy post Whole30. It is rare to have it. I tried beans. Another irritant. Therefore, I have built a new meal plan that is 80/20. Eighty percent is Whole30 and 20 percent is non Whole30. 

I have not gained weight by reintroducing non Whole30 foods. I am still losing and have incorporated more exercise. 

After talking to your doctor, I would highly recommend this program. Whole30 changed the way I view food. It changed the way I make meals. It changed the way I eat. 


Eating processed foods does not appeal to me. In the rare occossion of eating junk food, it does not make my body feel good. I prefer fruits, vegetables, and whole foods. My body runs better on whole foods. I still read labels, and ditch foods loaded with chemicals. I have a fondness for bananas, mangoes, berries, almonds, olive oil, purple potatoes, steak, roasted chicken, natural salad dressings, spinach, broccoli, and tomatoes. 

Learning a new way to eat is good. All the exercise in the world does not negate a poor meal plan. Changing the way we eat is a lifestyle change, not a temporary diet. Changing the way we eat leads to a better life, to wellness. 

So ditch the excuses and do something for your health! 

XO, 

Erin 

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Take Care of Yourself

  
Photo Source: Quotes and Thoughts. 

Hello wellness friends! I have not forgotten about you. 

I hope you are taking good care of yourselves; body, soul, and spirit. We are truine beings who need care in each area to be whole. 
One of the areas I have been focused on the past 9 months is the soul. The soul consists of our mind, will, emotions, and heart. If we prosper in our souls, our bodies benefit as well. 

The soul and spirit are not the same. The body is the house where the soul and spirit reside. 

As a person of faith, there is plenty of time invested in feeding my spirit positive things. The soul benefits from these activities. 

The soul has needs. These needs include intimacy (to be known), connection with others, acceptance, affection, love (to be loved), support, encouragement, to process information and feelings, to have fun and recreation, and to have rest-just to name a few. 

If you are a giver personality time like me, making sure your needs are met may fall way down on the priority list. 

I encourage you to take inventory of what is going on in your life. Have you neglected yourself? Have you invested as much in your soul as your body and spirit? Who in your life is loving you? 

I love giving, encouraging, and supporting others. I am internally driven to contribute. I took inventory of my own life and saw deficiencies. The majority of those around me were being supported, encouraged, loved, invested in, and sometimes I got the scraps off the table. 

I do not blame those who came to make withdrawls, and deposited nothing. I assessed why I was unwisely investing in some situations or relationships. How was it affecting my soul? 

It was depleting my soul. 

I am responsible for stewarding time, resources, and my life. It is not the responsibility of others. I love and value who I am, therefore I had to change the way others addressed me and my investments. 

People who call my number just to gain something and it is not life ordeath  are not a high priority.I started spending more time on things I wanted and needed to do. I ceased allowing other’s to dictate my response time. In today’s society there’s a thinking an email or text requires immediate response. I noticed though people took days to get back to me. I was the silly one trying yo respond fairly quickly out of love and respect. 

So, you learn to set limits and use wisdom with time, resources, and investments. You learn to invest in yourself and your future. You learn to turn some people and opportunities away. You learn to only have people in your inner circle who are like minded, mutually invested, and you care for your soul, body, and spirit. 

I believe life is about balance. 

Give; yes; do it without expectation. Also assess if you have investors in your life. As you are pouring out, is there anything coming in to refresh you? Life requires balance. 

You are worthy of exceptional love! 

Xx

Erin 

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90 Day Challenge 



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This is how I feel after working out. Before I work out I feel like a slug on a log…zzz….I just want a nap. After a long day in the office I don’t want to workout…yet I always feel better after I do. 

My friend Brian and I started a 90 day challenge. I type this as my body is throbbing! He started P90X. I started Power 90 which is in the P90 series. I’d love to tell you committing to this will be easy. It isn’t. I have a few week night obligations that take up time. 

Where does working out fit in? 

You make time! 

You make time because your health is important. 

You make time because if you do nothing, nothing changes. 

You make time so you feel better (endorphins baby…endorphins). 

You make time because you will look better, your skin glow, your body function better!!! 

You make time because you love yourself! 

If you don’t take care of yourself, who will? There’s no magic pill to melt away the Christmas pounds or tone up the flabby arms. It requires some effort. 

I’ve also given up dessert. I miss dessert. At least for now it’s on the shelf. 

Lastly…

I hope you’re taking care of yourself and enjoying life! Make each day count. You’re worth taking care of…so make time to care for your mind, body, spirit, and soul. 

Xo,

Erin 



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