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Focus on Being Healthy

Often I run across women in the grocery store, clothing store, and they are putting themselves down. I mean they are really digging in for the kill, “I am so fat. I am so ugly. I hate my body. Do you see this one wrinkle on my face. Oh man I am a troll. I wish I were skinnier. I wish I had her body. I wish I could be just like…(fill in some unrealistic expectation).

There is such a push in our society to be an airbrushed version of ourselves. I wonder often where the obsession with skinny and enhanced body parts came from. It’s okay if you are naturally thin. It’s also okay if you are not.

No one at our funerals will say, “They sure could have lost those last ten pounds.” It’s ludicrous to keep allowing the scale or a preconceived idea of beauty to stop you from enjoying life.

Love the body you are in and celebrate it. Say it with me, “I love my body.”

I was talking to a young lady who has always hated being a girl. Then she developed breast cancer. I told her, “You know hating yourself impacts your soul and your soul health impacts your natural (body) health.”

The body, soul, and spirit are connected. Sickness in one area impacts the others.

I knew of another lady who hated being female and she developed ovarian cancer. She hated being a girl. She died last year. She cursed her feminity with her words and cursed the gender given her at birth. Her self hatred manifested in her body.

Is all cancer the result of self hatred, no. Can our lack of love for who we are impact our bodies, absolutely.

There can also be copious amounts of time wasted on trying to be thin, skinny, get the last 10 pounds off that the joy of life is removed. I read an article a few weeks ago of a mom who died because she overdid it with protein consumption. Her pursuit of the “Perfect” body led her to the grave. What good is her “Perfect” body 6 feet under? Underground her body is rotting and decaying. Nothing but bones will lay in that grave. Her children will grow up without her. What good is skinny if you are dead?

Life is a gift! It may not always feel that way with the challenges, pressure, and pains of life. Yet life is a gift. Some people did not wake up this morning, or they have lost everything, or they are hanging on for dear life. What are we doing to enjoy life, really enjoy it! How are we focusing on being healthy…

Let’s talk about healthy life focus…

Healthy is more than meal plans and exercise. Healthy is taking care of ourselves, emotionally, and having our priorities straight.

What S.M.A.R.T (A SMART goal should be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound) goals are you setting for yourself? What are you doing to get closer to your personal goals?

This year I stated I wanted to focus on some of my own goals. I have. I have lost 25 pounds. I traveled to the Grand Canyon (bucket list item). I finished the manuscript for my second book. I stopped investing in one sided relationships. I limit time with toxic people. I am working on my third book and hope to get in the recording studio in the next 12 months. I spoke at a regional women’s conference for the first time ever. I quit some volunteer jobs that were killing me.

I realized in most situations I am the responsible person. If someone needs help and it’s legitimate, I will try to help. I tend to put others first. Yet life requires balance. If you are putting others first and they are putting themselves first, guess what, you will be left depleted. They will leave you cleaning up messes, handling situations, and they will ride off into the sunset on holiday. They will have no problem telling you no, quitting, dropping the ball, yet you will be left a wreck with only yourself to blame. Boundaries baby boundaries.

Relationships were meant to be mutual blessings, not one sided blessings. Who constantly has their hand out and deposits nothing? That is not your friend.

We need to focus as much on our own goals as we do on the goals of others.

If you are that person always putting yourself first, this does not apply to you. If you are a giver and try to invest in others, this applies to you. Are you sacrificing your own health (mental, emotional, and spiritual) for others and ending up burned out? If so, reeval your priorities. Reassess your boundaries. You are not responsible for other people, unless it’s a small child, your child. Adults are to take care of their own lives.

“Selfishness is placing your wants above others needs. Self care is placing your needs above another’s wants.”

Who are you investing your time in for relationships? Why? Do those people even try to match your effort? Relationships are not about what we can gain. There is a problem if everyone connected to us has their hand out.

What things have you wanted to do that you put off doing? Can you pick those up again?

What is toxic in your life? What are you doing about it? Ask yourself is what you are doing today getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow? Then move in the direction of the best yes.

My hope is you pursue health. Pursue healthy in every facet of life.

To your health…

Erin L Lamb

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Mental & Emotional Health 101

Today's post tackles emotional and mental health.

We live in a world of dysfunctional people; they are people who hate themselves and have no clue who they are. Their internal turmoil is often projected outward to those around them. You can choose to be offended or understand the battle is inside the other person and has nothing to do with you.

How people behave is an outward manifestation of their inner reality.

Key Things to Note:

People who hate themselves cannot love you. It is impossible to give away what we do not possess.

If you asked me for 10 million dollars, I could give you nothing. Why? I do not have 10 million dollars.

I have seen people go bananas over the lack of love, respect, and honor from others. People cam not give what they do not possess.

I encourage not allowing broken, unhappy people to rob you of joy! Joy is a weapon. Why give others that much power over you? The battle is ongoing inside of them, do not let their battle disrupt and discourage you.

I know it's easier said than done! Right?! Yet I will tell you that some of my greatest regrets have come from wasting time thinking about the negative energy of other people. They exposed me to their negativity and instead of ignoring, I internalized their crazy. Just say no to crazy!!

There is a story that I heard about Gandhi that helped me. I would like to share it with you.

There was a man who saught Gandhi out to berate him daily. He hurled insults, acted ugly, behaved poorly. Gandhi never responded or acknowledged his poor treatment. Finally the man said, "What is wrong with you? Can you not hear me, what I have said of you?" Gandhi replied, "If I give you a gift and you refuse to receive it, who does the gift belong to." The man replied, "It still belongs to you." "Exactly," Gandhi replied "You brought me insults and hostility yet I refused them, therefore they still belong to you."

Sometimes people insult me, try to put me down or make me look bad, etc…I have been called names, etc…I choose not to respond to what is not my name nor do I accept what they offer. Their lack of character, good sense, integrity, and love is between them and God. Their "gift of insult," still belongs to them. I maintain who I am which is someone who desires to represent the heart of God. I move right along maintaining joy.

Bless those who persecute you. Honor the dishonorable. Why? You represent something higher!!

My hope and encouragement is to stay the path of peace, love, joy and wellness. Refuse the toxicity of those around you. Sometimes we must speak up instead of ignore, yet my hope is we cease allowing small minds and broken people to steal from us!

Forgive them and move along!

To your health!

Erin Lamb

Photo sources: Pinterest, Tiny Buddha, Jill Conyers

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Say No to Body Shaming

Aloha fitness and wellness friends, 

Today I wanted to talk about something that I believe impacts lots of people. It is body shaming. 

Body shaming is refusing to love your body or trying to make others feel bad about their body. 

You see it on the internet. People troll others social media and make nasty comments. You see people trying to change what they look like through plastic surgery. You see people go to extremes to fit some mold that I am not sure who created. What is perfection? 

We have apps to airbrush away anything we see as an imperfection. 

Let me tell you, perfectionism is self abuse.

Perfectionism is rooted in the fear of not being good enough. It is a fruit of insecurity. It is a lie that if a person tries hard enough to be perfect they will not be rejected. It is a painful way to live. 


Yesterday I went shopping for clothes for a missionary friend (I do not enjoy shopping-unless it’s online-or gift for someone). Anywho, the ladies in the store spent 20 minutes talking about how they hated their bodies. Both were slim/average, yet they went on and on and on…

I noticed this trend with some women of not feeling good enough, beautiful enough, perfect enough, body shaming, hating something about themselves. 
I told them both I liked my body. They looked at me like I was some super wacko. Then they went on to talk about hating certain body parts that well I have more than they do in that area. 

My body not perfect, yet it gets the job done. It’s strong, man is it strong. It can box, kick box, krav maga, hold plank for several minutes, do push ups…it is healthy. I am healthy. Yet over the course of my life I have had people project body shame on me. 

One, I developed a curvy body pretty early on, maybe 14. I hated the way men looked at me. I grew ashamed of my curves, my coca cola shape and extra abundance in areas. I hated being sexualized. I was still a little girl, yet grown men were creepy and it made me want to hide my body. Even today, I hate being sexualized by men. 

I am an engineer/Research Scientist. I did an expo for my job a few weeks ago. I wore a dress, it covered everything up, it was professional. There were still men who came by and held conversations with my chest. They (my chest) do not talk. Some say men are wired this way. Yet I firmly believe it’s a lack of respect, self control, and viewing women as sex objects-our culture promotes it. 

I had to move past hating my body because men were being creepy. I also had to move past feeling less than from being around insecure women. You know the woman who is always insulting herself and you have the thing she is insulting herself about. She’s a size 4, you are a size 8 and she goes on for days about how fat she is. Gimmie a break!! It’s exhausting to deal with people who hate themselves. You have that one friend who has an inch of fat she keeps pinching and you want to scream, “Knock it off!!” 

Women talk about weight and appearance FAR, far, far more than men do. Why? Men can look like a train wreck and still think they are hot. Why are women constantly putting themselves down? Who started this trend? How can we kill it? 

God said I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Who argues with God? Jesus cannot lie. 

Ladies, that one inch of fat does not make you ugly

The ladies in the magazines, some, do not look like the photos. Photoshop and makeup are powerful. Trust me, I worked for Limited Brands. You can make anyone look amazing. Tools baby tools. 

I also work in a male environment, even when they don’t look good they are boasting about how awesome they are. They talk about how awesome they are. 

Some women put themselves down, while men (some) over exaggerate their qualities. Both need healthy confidence. Putting ourselves down and thinking more highly of ourselves than we should are both pride problems (extreme self focus). Both are vanity. 

Think of how much time is wasted criticizing oneself. What if we loved the bodies we are in and sought to make them as healthy as possible? How radical would that be! What if the focus was, “I love myself, therefore I eat healthy and workout“?

I will tell you shame does not produce a healthy life. It produces self destruction. Shame is hatred turned inwards. We were not created to hate ourselves or our bodies. We were created by God for love. Love sees the best. 

My encouragement is stop the body shaming. Ladies and gentlemen you are beautiful (handsome) right where you are. 

Homework: write on your bathroom mirror 

I am fearfully and wonderfully made!

Make positive body and self confessions. If you hear yourself degrading yourself or someone else, course correct and switch to love. Don’t worry about feelings. Feelings are not an indication of truth. Focus on feeding your mind truth and professing truth. Your feelings will catch up later! 

#saynotobodyshaming #loveyourself 

Photos pulled from Pinterest. 

Xoxo, 

Erin Lamb 

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Love Your Body! ❤️

  
Hello wellness friends! 

You are altogether lovely. Yes you are. Say it with me, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Let that sink into your soul and spirit. If necessary get a note and post it to your mirror. Say it daily. There is power in your words, our words. We begin to believe what we repeadily hear. 

I do not know about you, but when I see the magazines at the grocer check out they are telling me over and over that I need me + something to be okay. I need to have a certain hair color, eye color, hairstyle, bust line, waist circumference, hip and bottom shape. I need to look a certain way, dress a certain way, stay 18 forever, have certain relationships, and everything will work out okay. Let me tell you a little secret. Marketing is mostly aimed at telling you that you are missing something so you can buy something. 

I am quite pleased companies like Dove are starting campaigns to accept and love who you are. Check out some of their videos below. 

Dove (You Are More Beautiful Than You Think)
Dove (Beauty Evolution)-the power of makeup and photoshop
Why is it so important that we love ourselves? Well, life is quite painful if we are continually fighting ourselves. Life is not as enjoyable if we are consistently battling the lies of, “You are not good enough. You need to be more like that person. If you weigh a certain amount or wear a certain size or look a certain way, have certain things or relationships, then you will have the perfect life.” 

You can see on the mazagines those with the coined “perfect” bodies, right connections, and money to excess do not have the best lives either. Why? Because happiness is an inside job. 

If I love who I am, I can love my neighbor as I love myself. If I love who I am, I can be content in my skin. If I do not love myself, I will waste time and energy comparing, competing, and trying to fit into a mold I was not designed for-it’s wasted time. 

Low self esteem is also toxic to the soul (mind, emotions, will). We were not designed for insecurity or low self worth. We were made for love!   

I believe the source of love is God. That unconditional love must be received and accepted. When we love ourselves (receieve God’s love), our words reflect that love. Our relationship choices reflect that love. Our food choices begin to reflect that love. We attract better things and refuse things that damage our soul. When we love ourselves, what we tolerate   changes. When we love ourselves, we are willing to take more risks! 

It is not about the number on the scale or dress size. It is not about measuring up to a societal standard. It’s about being healthy, the best version of ourselves, and pursuing a life that hopefully inspires someone else to be the best version of who they were created to be. 

So here is a 7 day challenge for you. 

1. Make a list of the features and qualities you like most about yourself. If you’re struggling to put anything down, survey some friends and family. Review the list over the next 7 days. Give thanks for everything on that list. 

2. Start speaking postive affirmations daily over your body. 

  • I am fearfully and wonderfully made. 
  • My body is beautiful. 
  • I love who I am. 
  • I am of tremendous worth! 

3. When you feel the need to compare with someone else or put yourself down, go back to steps 1 and 2. 

I proclaim and declare loudly over you that you are beautiful (handsome), wonderfully made and of tremendous worth! 

Cheering for you! Be kind to yourself. You are loved!!❤️💯

  
Photo credits: Pinterest. 

Xx, 

Erin 

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Healthy Body Image

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Hi my fitness lovelies! I wanted to post tonight about a healthy body image. I’ve been a woman my entire life (insert laugh here). As a woman I’ve listened to women compare themselves to other women, put themselves down because of their body, and attempt to starve themselves into looking like a woman in a magazine. I worked for a well known lingerie catalogue in college and the girls in the magazines don’t look like the girls in the magazines. Photos are enhanced, airbrushed, and many, if not all, photoshopped. So you can exhale. Every person has some imperfections.

I had a college roomie tell me once, “You can never be too rich or thin.” I watched her, a size 4, diet and excessively exercise all through college. If only she could be smaller. I was thinking, “If you’re not going to eat that sandwich, I will. Forget counting calories! I’m happy with my size 6-8.” It’s not about size. It’s about health. You can be skinny and very unhealthy.

I also grew up around men who did not compare their bodies to anyone else. They seemed proud of their bodies even if they had some weight to lose. I don’t want to make body image a female thing. I can only speak from what I know.

I’ve heard women say….

If only I could lose ________pounds.
I hate my _______.
I wish I could change my ____________.
She’s so beautiful and I wish I had her ___________.

I want to start a revolution! A revolution of women who love who they are and refuse to compare themselves to anyone else! Every woman is valuable. Don’t let societal pressure push you into thinking you’re not beautiful or awesome. Repeat after me, “I love my body! It’s strong. I’m going to treat it with respect, honor, and dignity. I will not compare myself to anyone else. I seek to be the best version of me!” It feels weird at first, but you can do this.

Just like Jennifer Lawrence stated, you want the generations coming up behind you to cease starving themselves to achieve something that’s not worth starving for! So many young girls are already starving themselves and dieting pre-puberty. The madness has to stop.

Confidence and health are more attractive than a particular dress size.

Be healthy! Eat healthy and exercise. Take care of yourself. Most of all love yourself!!! Cheering for you! You’re awesome. 🙂

xoxo,

Erin

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