Posts Tagged With: emotional health

Small Changes Make Tremendous Impact

  
Beautiful wellness friends. You can do this, a commitment to a healthier life! I believe in you. 

I started this wellness blog because my life was just in utter chaos. I had  so much stress. Just like the picture quote above…I woke up one morning and said, “I don’t want to live like this anymore. I need to change.” And I did. 

One of the first things I did was assess my relationships. Many of them were uber toxic. There was constant drama. I tried to reason with some, and others I said, “It’s been real but I no longer have the heart, ability, or capacity to deal with this constant nonsense.” A bold but healthy move. 

I then spent about a year healing from the toxicity. Soul healing, recovering, seeking for what was next. 

  
I realized I had spent a good portion of my life helping other people, cheering for other people, supporting other people, loving people. Yet when I looked around, my support was minimal. I am all for giving without expectation of return. If you’re always giving and there’s not balance it leads to feeling like a slave or very unloved. 

So here are some things I’ve learned along the way! You ready? Hope so. 

1. Say no to things you don’t have the ability to support emotionally, physically, and financially. All three. 

Sometimes I get invited places and I really can’t expend any more emotionally. As an introvert, massive togetherness is draining. 

I limit what I say yes to! 

2. Say no to things that don’t align with the vision or mission. 

I’m a very driven person. I have goals and a mission statement for my life. Does the request fit? Every opportunity is not my opportunity. 

3. Assess the relationships in your life. 

Who are you spending time with and why? If everyone in your circle is the same, how will you grow? Diversity is important and being surrounded by people who want to mutually invest. Iron sharpening iron. If you’re helping everyone in your circle, that’s charity or ministry. Connect with others further along than you, doing what you’d like to do, and who will challenge you to become better. 

4. What are eating? 

Food is supposed to be fuel. If you eat garbage, it doesn’t run as efficiently. 

I started making changes in the food choices I made. 

5. What are you watching? 

I gave up cable two years ago. I miss some things, many I don’t. I am not bombarded with commercials telling me I need to buy things I don’t need or look some way I will never achieve without plastic surgery. I’m not stating cable is bad. I’m stating what you feast on gets deposited in your soul; images, sounds, and ideas. 

6. What are your goals? 

This life on earth isn’t forever. What are your goals? I encourage people not to wait until they are 65 to make a bucket list. Why are you alive? What will your legacy be? 

Each person has a divine purpose for being alive. You matter! Your life matters. 

Write out those dreams and be specific. 

Here’s one of mine. By 2017 I want to have my demo CD complete and on iTunes. It’s reasonable, specific, and there’s a time attached to it. 

What are your goals? What changes in your life need to take place to achieve those goals? What’s stopping you? 

These changes brought such peace to my life. I have more joy now than I ever have had. I have peace and joy. My confidence is greater. I have several groups of people that are more supportive that opened up to me from stepping away from what I had. I have zero relational drama. I have the free time to write music, books, read, and grow. I’m excited more than I was about my future. I have the ability to say yes to what is great instead of wasting time on what’s simply good. I’m free of chronic sadness! I have hope. I’m more creative. There are so many great things that came from 1 choice. 

My life had to change. I was willing to do what was necessary to make that change happen! 

Cheering for your destiny! You can do this!!! 

  
All photos courtesy of Pinterest.

Xxxx,

Erin 

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Feast on Good Things

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Last post we talked about ingredients. They are so important. The post before that we talked about having a negative mind. Today, I want to pull it all together.

What you feed grows!
What you starve dies!
What you feast on is what will take root and bear fruit!

What are you feasting on? This isn’t just about the Cheetos hidden in the back of your cupboard or the bags of Oreos kept around in case of emergency. This is about everything you’re taking into your life.

How much time is spent watching tv with violence, bad news, bad relationships, drama, and commercials telling you that your life is not enough?

How much time is spent reading news feeds on Facebook or Instagram? Most people put the best parts of their lives on social media…look how much I love my spouse, my kids, my new car, my church, my new hairstyle, my fill in the blank….it’s not wrong to keep people informed or stay informed. However, if you’re feasting on a steady diet of others bragging, even if you feel good about your life…you’re feeding your subconscious mind tools for comparison. We are taught from an early age to compare things. Comparison robs the soul of joy!

How much time is spent in solitude, quiet, journaling, learning, or reading? Busyness is killing and over stressing the industrialized world. Work harder, do more!!! Work! And even play or recreation can be in excess. Life requires balance and rest. We are also so dependent on information given to us via news, social media, or the internet…people sometimes forget you can’t believe everything you read or hear. Do some research. Read books. Learn something. Feed your mind something other than reality tv.

Who are we listening to and spending time with? I took a year to refrain from being super social. I had some negative experiences with people and wanted restoration. I found out you can’t be fully restored if you’re constantly exposed to negativity, drama, he said…she said, and easily offended people. It wears on your immune system. I read, spent time in prayer, journaled, painted, played guitar, spent time with God. I never had so much joy! I feasted on good things and limited interactions with people who at the time were not beneficial for my mental or emotional health. You may not be able to do what I did. You can take a weekend away by yourself or tell your loved ones, “I need a break. I will be in my room the next couple of hours.” You can tell people, “I love you, but I refuse to have this conversation until you can be respectful.” Set boundaries with people! Don’t be a doormat.

Finally, we sometimes believe wellness is simply about the body (what we eat and exercise). It’s the mind, body, spirit, and soul we are called to take care of. If we neglect one part, the others suffer. So be good to yourself!

Xoxo,

Erin

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Take 5

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We spend so much of our time doing. We are busy from sun up until sun down. We are plugged in, connected, and constantly busy. Today, I would like to talk about something we sometimes fail to do, but it’s very important for our well-being; rest.

Rest is so important. We can think that running full steam ahead is a great idea, however our bodies will suffer if we don’t rest. Here’s some info on rest.

Rest helps keep our hormones in balance. The hormone grenalin which controls hunger is disrupted when we do not get adequate sleep. When we are sleep deprived, we are often hungrier. Grenalin  stimulates our desire for fatty food and high calorie density food. Lack of sleep also disrupts the hormone leptin. “Leptin signals the brain that the body has had enough to eat, producing a feeling of satiety. Moreover, this fullness hormone may make it easier for people to resist the temptation of foods high in calories.1″

Rest helps us to build muscle. Despite what we may believe, working out every day at high intensity is not the best. Here’s some information from Livestrong. “Overworking your muscles actually prevents muscle growth, because your muscles do not have time to adjust to the strain put on them. By doing tough muscle-building exercises with adequate rest, you will see gains in muscle strength and bulk in a few weeks,” Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/100116-proper-way-build-muscles/#ixzz2J1GaL6p4.

Even if you are not working out to build muscle, overworking our bodies is not beneficial for our health. Rest is important for a healthy body.

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Rest improves mental and emotional health. If you have ever suffered from insomnia, which I have, you know that your mental health suffers when you are exhausted. You can’t think clearly. Everything seems to be especially hard and taxing. You may suffer from anxiety, a bad case of the grumpies, lack of concentration, etc…Sleep and rest (ceasing from continual activity) helps the mind to function the way it is supposed to.

Rest helps your body combat stress. Stress is not our friend. You can go back and read earlier posts about what stress does to the human body. Prolonged stress causes hormonal imbalances, weakens the immune system, can cause gastrointestinal problems, relational problems, hair loss, etc…We want to rest so our bodies can rebound from excess stress.

Rest helps us to remain at center, at peace. I am a person of faith. I believe peace is powerful. Rest helps us to remain at peace. When we are constantly moving, doing,etc…our spirits suffer. I often lack peace when I am ceasing to rest. You may not be a person of faith, so hang with me if you aren’t. My goal on this site isn’t to push my beliefs on you. I do believe in God and that rest is a spiritual discipline. A Sabbath is needed to benefit not only the body, mind, and emotions, but our spirits as well.

Well, my dear friends. I hope that you find time in the midst of busy lives and strenuous workout schedules to rest. Make rest a priority! Keep up the good work, I am cheering for you!

1. Baicy K, London ED, Monterosso J, Wong ML, Delibasi T, Sharma A, Licinio J (November 2007). “Leptin replacement alters brain response to food cues in genetically leptin-deficient adults”. Proc. Natl. Acad. Sci. U.S.A. 104 (46): 18276–9. doi:10.1073/pnas.0706481104. PMC 2084333. PMID 17986612.

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Are You Sabotaging Your Health?

If one part of the body suffers, the entire body suffers. We spend time trying to fix one symptom when there are many root issues at work.

Last time we talked about stress and sleep and the impact it has on weight loss and health. Today I want to talk about ways we can minimize stress.

1. Let go. Seems simple, but there are so many things that are outside of our realm of control. We can’t fix everything. There’s deep truth in the serenity prayer.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

Letting go of the things we cannot change brings peace to our minds, spirits, and souls.

2. Cease being all things to all people. Someone once said the key to failure is to try to please everyone. It’s not going to happen. Over-extending ourselves is a sure fire way to be stressed. What has to be done and what can be done by someone else?

Also trying to make everyone happy is unhealthy. We are not responsible for another person’s happiness. They alone control their happiness. You can do all that you know to do and someone still end up unhappy.

3. Nix perfectionism. Perfectionism is self abuse. Excellence, seeking to do the very best job possible is good. Perfectionism is a cruel task master that says, “If it’s not perfect, it’s not good.” I’m a painter in my free time. Some of my favorite paintings aren’t perfect, but they are still beautiful to me. Aim for excellence and be okay with not having perfection in everything.

4. Celebrate your accomplishments. I don’t mean brag, but if you achieve a goal, take a moment to celebrate that victory…no matter how small. It’s so easy to overlook the good and focus on the next thing. We need to slow down and give thanks.

5. Do something fun. All work and no play makes life dull and boring. We work for the weekend. Find something you love to do and do it! Life is too short not to be enjoyed. If you have a family, see if you can slip away for some alone time every so often. Solitude is often good in our fast paced lives.

There are many other things that help with stress like exercising, journaling, prayer, etc…just wanted to share a few with you that I find helpful. Here’s to your journey to wellness.

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