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Mental & Emotional Health 101

Today's post tackles emotional and mental health.

We live in a world of dysfunctional people; they are people who hate themselves and have no clue who they are. Their internal turmoil is often projected outward to those around them. You can choose to be offended or understand the battle is inside the other person and has nothing to do with you.

How people behave is an outward manifestation of their inner reality.

Key Things to Note:

People who hate themselves cannot love you. It is impossible to give away what we do not possess.

If you asked me for 10 million dollars, I could give you nothing. Why? I do not have 10 million dollars.

I have seen people go bananas over the lack of love, respect, and honor from others. People cam not give what they do not possess.

I encourage not allowing broken, unhappy people to rob you of joy! Joy is a weapon. Why give others that much power over you? The battle is ongoing inside of them, do not let their battle disrupt and discourage you.

I know it's easier said than done! Right?! Yet I will tell you that some of my greatest regrets have come from wasting time thinking about the negative energy of other people. They exposed me to their negativity and instead of ignoring, I internalized their crazy. Just say no to crazy!!

There is a story that I heard about Gandhi that helped me. I would like to share it with you.

There was a man who saught Gandhi out to berate him daily. He hurled insults, acted ugly, behaved poorly. Gandhi never responded or acknowledged his poor treatment. Finally the man said, "What is wrong with you? Can you not hear me, what I have said of you?" Gandhi replied, "If I give you a gift and you refuse to receive it, who does the gift belong to." The man replied, "It still belongs to you." "Exactly," Gandhi replied "You brought me insults and hostility yet I refused them, therefore they still belong to you."

Sometimes people insult me, try to put me down or make me look bad, etc…I have been called names, etc…I choose not to respond to what is not my name nor do I accept what they offer. Their lack of character, good sense, integrity, and love is between them and God. Their "gift of insult," still belongs to them. I maintain who I am which is someone who desires to represent the heart of God. I move right along maintaining joy.

Bless those who persecute you. Honor the dishonorable. Why? You represent something higher!!

My hope and encouragement is to stay the path of peace, love, joy and wellness. Refuse the toxicity of those around you. Sometimes we must speak up instead of ignore, yet my hope is we cease allowing small minds and broken people to steal from us!

Forgive them and move along!

To your health!

Erin Lamb

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Say No to Body Shaming

Aloha fitness and wellness friends, 

Today I wanted to talk about something that I believe impacts lots of people. It is body shaming. 

Body shaming is refusing to love your body or trying to make others feel bad about their body. 

You see it on the internet. People troll others social media and make nasty comments. You see people trying to change what they look like through plastic surgery. You see people go to extremes to fit some mold that I am not sure who created. What is perfection? 

We have apps to airbrush away anything we see as an imperfection. 

Let me tell you, perfectionism is self abuse.

Perfectionism is rooted in the fear of not being good enough. It is a fruit of insecurity. It is a lie that if a person tries hard enough to be perfect they will not be rejected. It is a painful way to live. 


Yesterday I went shopping for clothes for a missionary friend (I do not enjoy shopping-unless it’s online-or gift for someone). Anywho, the ladies in the store spent 20 minutes talking about how they hated their bodies. Both were slim/average, yet they went on and on and on…

I noticed this trend with some women of not feeling good enough, beautiful enough, perfect enough, body shaming, hating something about themselves. 
I told them both I liked my body. They looked at me like I was some super wacko. Then they went on to talk about hating certain body parts that well I have more than they do in that area. 

My body not perfect, yet it gets the job done. It’s strong, man is it strong. It can box, kick box, krav maga, hold plank for several minutes, do push ups…it is healthy. I am healthy. Yet over the course of my life I have had people project body shame on me. 

One, I developed a curvy body pretty early on, maybe 14. I hated the way men looked at me. I grew ashamed of my curves, my coca cola shape and extra abundance in areas. I hated being sexualized. I was still a little girl, yet grown men were creepy and it made me want to hide my body. Even today, I hate being sexualized by men. 

I am an engineer/Research Scientist. I did an expo for my job a few weeks ago. I wore a dress, it covered everything up, it was professional. There were still men who came by and held conversations with my chest. They (my chest) do not talk. Some say men are wired this way. Yet I firmly believe it’s a lack of respect, self control, and viewing women as sex objects-our culture promotes it. 

I had to move past hating my body because men were being creepy. I also had to move past feeling less than from being around insecure women. You know the woman who is always insulting herself and you have the thing she is insulting herself about. She’s a size 4, you are a size 8 and she goes on for days about how fat she is. Gimmie a break!! It’s exhausting to deal with people who hate themselves. You have that one friend who has an inch of fat she keeps pinching and you want to scream, “Knock it off!!” 

Women talk about weight and appearance FAR, far, far more than men do. Why? Men can look like a train wreck and still think they are hot. Why are women constantly putting themselves down? Who started this trend? How can we kill it? 

God said I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Who argues with God? Jesus cannot lie. 

Ladies, that one inch of fat does not make you ugly

The ladies in the magazines, some, do not look like the photos. Photoshop and makeup are powerful. Trust me, I worked for Limited Brands. You can make anyone look amazing. Tools baby tools. 

I also work in a male environment, even when they don’t look good they are boasting about how awesome they are. They talk about how awesome they are. 

Some women put themselves down, while men (some) over exaggerate their qualities. Both need healthy confidence. Putting ourselves down and thinking more highly of ourselves than we should are both pride problems (extreme self focus). Both are vanity. 

Think of how much time is wasted criticizing oneself. What if we loved the bodies we are in and sought to make them as healthy as possible? How radical would that be! What if the focus was, “I love myself, therefore I eat healthy and workout“?

I will tell you shame does not produce a healthy life. It produces self destruction. Shame is hatred turned inwards. We were not created to hate ourselves or our bodies. We were created by God for love. Love sees the best. 

My encouragement is stop the body shaming. Ladies and gentlemen you are beautiful (handsome) right where you are. 

Homework: write on your bathroom mirror 

I am fearfully and wonderfully made!

Make positive body and self confessions. If you hear yourself degrading yourself or someone else, course correct and switch to love. Don’t worry about feelings. Feelings are not an indication of truth. Focus on feeding your mind truth and professing truth. Your feelings will catch up later! 

#saynotobodyshaming #loveyourself 

Photos pulled from Pinterest. 

Xoxo, 

Erin Lamb 

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Slow Progress is Better Than No Progress (December Challenge)

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Hey fitness friends. I hope you are sticking with this challenge. 

How are you doing? How have you managed through all the Christmas/holiday parties and baked goods galore? 

We have been at this for 24 days. I can report that my pants are baggier, my stomach lost several inches, and I am seeing greater muscle definition in my arms. 

I want to keep going through January. Are you game?! I sure hope so. 

Healthy is more than a challenge, it is a lifestyle. If you have made it this far, you can continue to press forward into 2017. I believe in you! 

Make 2017 about transformation and the best you ever! 

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What if this upcoming year brought about the healthiest you? 

The goal is to keep moving. To eat healthy foods and junk food in moderation, to treat our bodies like temples-not garbage cans. 🙂 

I am cheering for you. You can do this. If you do not recall the challenge info, click here December Challenge

Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year! 

P.S add some veggies to that holiday plate. 

Xxxx

Erin

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Get Moving (December Challenge)

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Hello fitness friends! 

How was your Thanksgiving (American friends)? Did you almost overdose on turkey and stuffing, pies and mashed potatoes? Are you feeling super bloated from snacking and foodie overload? 

Well, I am inviting you on a fitness challenge. Yes, indeed. There is no need to pack on 10 to 15 pounds this holiday season. Why wait until January 1rst to get moving? 

Start moving today. 

Let’s make this December count and end this year with fitness finesse. 

Challenge Info: 

1. Hydrate baby hydrate. 💧💦

Dehydration leads to bloating, dry skin, memory issues, overeating, digestive issues, toxin buildup in the body, and can lead to weight gain. 

When our bodies do not have enough water, they do not function at their optimal level. It’s similar to a car without gasoline. Eventually, we feel worn down. Our organs need water. Water is our friend. 

If we have lots of toxins built up in the body, we will struggle to lose weight. 

One way to free up some of those toxins is to drink 8 ounces of warm lemon water in the morning first thing and before bed. Lemon water helps to alkalize the body, aid digestion, and flush the body of toxins. 

Here are some additional benefits of drinking lemon water-Benefits of Lemon Water

It is also good to note cancer thrives in an acidic body. Alkalizing the body is helpful in many ways. 

So let’s opt for at least 10 (8 oz) glasses of water per day. If you can get more, great. 

Disclaimer: Touch base with your doctor before changing your diet/exercise plan. I am not a licensed physician. 

2. Moderation (80/20 rule)

Let’s talk about what is on your plate. What are you eating? To stick to a super clean diet or meal plan 24/7 is challenging, especially during the holidays. What if the focus was on eating clean 80% of the time and splurging 20% of the time. 

What does this look like? 

3 meals a day times 7 days a week=21 meals (I recommend three meals and two snacks, eating every three to four hours. Ceasing meals or snacks after 9pm)

80% clean (non processed, no fast food, limited sugar (only natural sugar), whole foods, not fried)=~17 meals. 

20% splurge=4 meals. I would recommend not overdoing it with over 1000 calories a meal. You can negate your progress. 1 pound equals 3,500 calories. 

Example: Sunday through Friday lunch is super clean and healthy. Friday dinner through Saturday is splurge. Well if you consume 10,000 calories in 1.5 days that would negate the week. 

I would recommend looking at your goals. 

Maintain or lose weight. 

This plan works for active people who are seeking to maintain their weight. 

Once again cheat meals are about moderation, not consuming your weight in cookies or nachos. 🙂 

  
If it’s to lose weight, you will need to use self control with cheat meals. 

For example my plan is 1300-1500 calories a day, with only two cheat meals a week. 

Here is an online calculator to see what your calorie needs are to lose weight or maintain. How many calories to consume

Once again talk to your doctor before beginning any plan. 

I do recommend keeping track of what you eat. I am using My Fitness Pal

Many times we are consuming far more calories than we burn. Sedentary and overboard with calories leads to weight gain. 

3. Assess your health

If you are eating healthy and gaining, I would touch base with your doctor to ensure there is not an  underlying health issue. You may have an issue with your thyroid, insulin resistance, too much stress hormone (cortisol), or for women fibroids. Hormones play a part in weight loss or lack of weight loss. 

If you have been struggling with your weight, energy, sleep, or digestion it is a good time to touch base with your primary care doctor. 

4. Increase the Fruits/Vegetables 

Have you been avoiding the fruits and vegetables to opt for the cookies, donuts, cake, pasta, bread, and chips? 

Our bodies need vitamins and antioxidants that come from fruits and vegetables. Sometimes overeating occurs because of the quality of the foods we are eating. Those nachos from Taco Bell do not provide all the nutrients needed to fuel the body. 

So what does 5 servings a day of fruits and veggies look like forthe average person? 

 

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5. Get Moving

Maybe you live in a cold part of the world like I do. October through May it is cold. Working out outside is limited. Therefore, I have to find ways to get fit indoors. I also lack enjoyment from working out with people. I do not have a gym membership, though I take classes sometimes. 

I do have a room, computer, hand weights, exercise bands, and wifi! I also have a tv and DVD player. Therefore, autumn and winter are great times to workout at home. 

Here are some of my favorite online (free) workouts. 

Denise Austin: Ultimate Fat Burn

Denise Austin: Cardio Kickboxing Fat Blast Workout 
Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred Level 1
Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred Level 2
Denise Austin: Total Pilates Challenge
As for DVDs, there are many options. I have used P90X, P90X2, Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred and Ripped in 30, 21 Day Fix, and Power 90. I have seen great results at home. 

Pinterest also has videos and workout cards to use. 

Let’s shoot for 4 days a week for at least 20-30 minutes. 

Disclaimer: check with your doctor before commencing with any workout plan. 

I hope you join the challenge; I am excited to hear about your results. I recommend not only using the scale, but taking measurements. 

Here is some guidance for measurements Body Measurements Guidance

Write down where you start. We will take measurements again in January.  

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Cheering for you! You can do this. 

Erin Lamb 

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