Posts Tagged With: beauty

Say No to Body Shaming

Aloha fitness and wellness friends, 

Today I wanted to talk about something that I believe impacts lots of people. It is body shaming. 

Body shaming is refusing to love your body or trying to make others feel bad about their body. 

You see it on the internet. People troll others social media and make nasty comments. You see people trying to change what they look like through plastic surgery. You see people go to extremes to fit some mold that I am not sure who created. What is perfection? 

We have apps to airbrush away anything we see as an imperfection. 

Let me tell you, perfectionism is self abuse.

Perfectionism is rooted in the fear of not being good enough. It is a fruit of insecurity. It is a lie that if a person tries hard enough to be perfect they will not be rejected. It is a painful way to live. 


Yesterday I went shopping for clothes for a missionary friend (I do not enjoy shopping-unless it’s online-or gift for someone). Anywho, the ladies in the store spent 20 minutes talking about how they hated their bodies. Both were slim/average, yet they went on and on and on…

I noticed this trend with some women of not feeling good enough, beautiful enough, perfect enough, body shaming, hating something about themselves. 
I told them both I liked my body. They looked at me like I was some super wacko. Then they went on to talk about hating certain body parts that well I have more than they do in that area. 

My body not perfect, yet it gets the job done. It’s strong, man is it strong. It can box, kick box, krav maga, hold plank for several minutes, do push ups…it is healthy. I am healthy. Yet over the course of my life I have had people project body shame on me. 

One, I developed a curvy body pretty early on, maybe 14. I hated the way men looked at me. I grew ashamed of my curves, my coca cola shape and extra abundance in areas. I hated being sexualized. I was still a little girl, yet grown men were creepy and it made me want to hide my body. Even today, I hate being sexualized by men. 

I am an engineer/Research Scientist. I did an expo for my job a few weeks ago. I wore a dress, it covered everything up, it was professional. There were still men who came by and held conversations with my chest. They (my chest) do not talk. Some say men are wired this way. Yet I firmly believe it’s a lack of respect, self control, and viewing women as sex objects-our culture promotes it. 

I had to move past hating my body because men were being creepy. I also had to move past feeling less than from being around insecure women. You know the woman who is always insulting herself and you have the thing she is insulting herself about. She’s a size 4, you are a size 8 and she goes on for days about how fat she is. Gimmie a break!! It’s exhausting to deal with people who hate themselves. You have that one friend who has an inch of fat she keeps pinching and you want to scream, “Knock it off!!” 

Women talk about weight and appearance FAR, far, far more than men do. Why? Men can look like a train wreck and still think they are hot. Why are women constantly putting themselves down? Who started this trend? How can we kill it? 

God said I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Who argues with God? Jesus cannot lie. 

Ladies, that one inch of fat does not make you ugly

The ladies in the magazines, some, do not look like the photos. Photoshop and makeup are powerful. Trust me, I worked for Limited Brands. You can make anyone look amazing. Tools baby tools. 

I also work in a male environment, even when they don’t look good they are boasting about how awesome they are. They talk about how awesome they are. 

Some women put themselves down, while men (some) over exaggerate their qualities. Both need healthy confidence. Putting ourselves down and thinking more highly of ourselves than we should are both pride problems (extreme self focus). Both are vanity. 

Think of how much time is wasted criticizing oneself. What if we loved the bodies we are in and sought to make them as healthy as possible? How radical would that be! What if the focus was, “I love myself, therefore I eat healthy and workout“?

I will tell you shame does not produce a healthy life. It produces self destruction. Shame is hatred turned inwards. We were not created to hate ourselves or our bodies. We were created by God for love. Love sees the best. 

My encouragement is stop the body shaming. Ladies and gentlemen you are beautiful (handsome) right where you are. 

Homework: write on your bathroom mirror 

I am fearfully and wonderfully made!

Make positive body and self confessions. If you hear yourself degrading yourself or someone else, course correct and switch to love. Don’t worry about feelings. Feelings are not an indication of truth. Focus on feeding your mind truth and professing truth. Your feelings will catch up later! 

#saynotobodyshaming #loveyourself 

Photos pulled from Pinterest. 

Xoxo, 

Erin Lamb 

Categories: Emotional Health, Fitness, Mental Health | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Love Your Body

  
Hello fitness friends! I hope you are continuing on your path to wellness! It’s been a whirlwind of things on this end, yet I did not forget about you! 

Today I wanted to talk about loving your body. Loving your body right now. Not loving your body when it looks like an airbrushed photo from a magazine. Even they have some digital help to look flawless! 

I used to work for a popular clothing and lingerie company. I found that the models had lots of help to look that good which made me feel a bit better. 

Yet I realized from working in the stores even the women who were close to flawless were trying to enhance even more what they had. I realized there’s a difference between health and vanity. 

  
If you’re curvy, love those curves! If you’re thin, love the skin you’re in, if you’re athletic, keep being a sporty you! If you have some pounds to shed for health reasons…love your body today. 

Body shame leads to emotional pain. Emotional pain leads to overeating or starvation diets. Both are unhealthy. 

Love your body because it’s housed your spirit and soul all these years! 

Love your body because it keeps going getting you from point a to point b. 

Love your body because without it…well you don’t have an earthly presence. 

Love your body because it’s a part of you and you are loved! 

I was singing from the stage last night and someone took a photo of me from below. Worst angle. Before I would’ve asked them not to post it online. Yet I said I didn’t care. I love my body. It’s muscular, it’s strong, it’s gotten me through all those years. I love myself! I love my body. It’s beautiful because God says so. I won’t starve, over exercise, nit pick,  or put it down! 

Hope this last picture inspires you! 

  
Xxxx

Erin 

Categories: Emotional Health, Fitness, Mental Health, Motivation, Nutrition, Spiritual Health | Tags: , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Choose Health Over Vanity

20130927-143521.jpg

Hello fitness friends. Today I wanted to talk to you about vanity. Our society is obsessed with looks. I don’t watch tv very often, but when I do, I am overwhelmed by the commercials that focus on appearance. How do you obtain the perfect body? How do you stop wrinkles? How do you become the world ‘s most beautiful person?

The problem is: beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just as the picture above states, you can be the juiciest peach in the world and there will still be someone who doesn’t like peaches. The obsession can never be fixed because the beholder is constantly changing. I’ve known people who lived at the gym or spent truck loads of money on products. They hurt their bodies in pursuit of vanity.

My two cents:

Enjoy life! It’s shorter than you think. So, every once in awhile have a cookie or some treat.

Love yourself! You may never fit society’s mold of perfection, but most people don’t. I worked for a swimsuit and women’s apparel catalogue; many pictures were airbrushed. We see “perfection,” and reality is less than perfect. When I go out, I rarely see models walking around. People come in all shapes and sizes.

Choose health over vanity! Your health is far more important than reaching a scale goal or trying to meet some external standard of beauty. Eat healthy food and exercise. Most of all, enjoy your life!

Categories: Fitness, Mental Health, Nutrition | Tags: , , , | Leave a comment

Blog at WordPress.com.