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Say No to Body Shaming

Aloha fitness and wellness friends, 

Today I wanted to talk about something that I believe impacts lots of people. It is body shaming. 

Body shaming is refusing to love your body or trying to make others feel bad about their body. 

You see it on the internet. People troll others social media and make nasty comments. You see people trying to change what they look like through plastic surgery. You see people go to extremes to fit some mold that I am not sure who created. What is perfection? 

We have apps to airbrush away anything we see as an imperfection. 

Let me tell you, perfectionism is self abuse.

Perfectionism is rooted in the fear of not being good enough. It is a fruit of insecurity. It is a lie that if a person tries hard enough to be perfect they will not be rejected. It is a painful way to live. 


Yesterday I went shopping for clothes for a missionary friend (I do not enjoy shopping-unless it’s online-or gift for someone). Anywho, the ladies in the store spent 20 minutes talking about how they hated their bodies. Both were slim/average, yet they went on and on and on…

I noticed this trend with some women of not feeling good enough, beautiful enough, perfect enough, body shaming, hating something about themselves. 
I told them both I liked my body. They looked at me like I was some super wacko. Then they went on to talk about hating certain body parts that well I have more than they do in that area. 

My body not perfect, yet it gets the job done. It’s strong, man is it strong. It can box, kick box, krav maga, hold plank for several minutes, do push ups…it is healthy. I am healthy. Yet over the course of my life I have had people project body shame on me. 

One, I developed a curvy body pretty early on, maybe 14. I hated the way men looked at me. I grew ashamed of my curves, my coca cola shape and extra abundance in areas. I hated being sexualized. I was still a little girl, yet grown men were creepy and it made me want to hide my body. Even today, I hate being sexualized by men. 

I am an engineer/Research Scientist. I did an expo for my job a few weeks ago. I wore a dress, it covered everything up, it was professional. There were still men who came by and held conversations with my chest. They (my chest) do not talk. Some say men are wired this way. Yet I firmly believe it’s a lack of respect, self control, and viewing women as sex objects-our culture promotes it. 

I had to move past hating my body because men were being creepy. I also had to move past feeling less than from being around insecure women. You know the woman who is always insulting herself and you have the thing she is insulting herself about. She’s a size 4, you are a size 8 and she goes on for days about how fat she is. Gimmie a break!! It’s exhausting to deal with people who hate themselves. You have that one friend who has an inch of fat she keeps pinching and you want to scream, “Knock it off!!” 

Women talk about weight and appearance FAR, far, far more than men do. Why? Men can look like a train wreck and still think they are hot. Why are women constantly putting themselves down? Who started this trend? How can we kill it? 

God said I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Who argues with God? Jesus cannot lie. 

Ladies, that one inch of fat does not make you ugly

The ladies in the magazines, some, do not look like the photos. Photoshop and makeup are powerful. Trust me, I worked for Limited Brands. You can make anyone look amazing. Tools baby tools. 

I also work in a male environment, even when they don’t look good they are boasting about how awesome they are. They talk about how awesome they are. 

Some women put themselves down, while men (some) over exaggerate their qualities. Both need healthy confidence. Putting ourselves down and thinking more highly of ourselves than we should are both pride problems (extreme self focus). Both are vanity. 

Think of how much time is wasted criticizing oneself. What if we loved the bodies we are in and sought to make them as healthy as possible? How radical would that be! What if the focus was, “I love myself, therefore I eat healthy and workout“?

I will tell you shame does not produce a healthy life. It produces self destruction. Shame is hatred turned inwards. We were not created to hate ourselves or our bodies. We were created by God for love. Love sees the best. 

My encouragement is stop the body shaming. Ladies and gentlemen you are beautiful (handsome) right where you are. 

Homework: write on your bathroom mirror 

I am fearfully and wonderfully made!

Make positive body and self confessions. If you hear yourself degrading yourself or someone else, course correct and switch to love. Don’t worry about feelings. Feelings are not an indication of truth. Focus on feeding your mind truth and professing truth. Your feelings will catch up later! 

#saynotobodyshaming #loveyourself 

Photos pulled from Pinterest. 

Xoxo, 

Erin Lamb 

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Life After Whole30

I hope you gave Whole30 a shot. I did and do not regret it. I lost 14 pounds without exercising much. I did take my Whole30 further than the 30 days. I went for two rounds. Yet 7 pounds a month is great progress. It is healthy progress. 

If you did or are trying Whole30, I highly recommend easing back into eating non Whole30 foods. They provide guidance for reintroducing foods-one group at a time. I started with some grains, example corn. I was okay with grains. Then I tried dairy. Ummmmm…my stomach hated it. So I am less prone to eat dairy post Whole30. It is rare to have it. I tried beans. Another irritant. Therefore, I have built a new meal plan that is 80/20. Eighty percent is Whole30 and 20 percent is non Whole30. 

I have not gained weight by reintroducing non Whole30 foods. I am still losing and have incorporated more exercise. 

After talking to your doctor, I would highly recommend this program. Whole30 changed the way I view food. It changed the way I make meals. It changed the way I eat. 


Eating processed foods does not appeal to me. In the rare occossion of eating junk food, it does not make my body feel good. I prefer fruits, vegetables, and whole foods. My body runs better on whole foods. I still read labels, and ditch foods loaded with chemicals. I have a fondness for bananas, mangoes, berries, almonds, olive oil, purple potatoes, steak, roasted chicken, natural salad dressings, spinach, broccoli, and tomatoes. 

Learning a new way to eat is good. All the exercise in the world does not negate a poor meal plan. Changing the way we eat is a lifestyle change, not a temporary diet. Changing the way we eat leads to a better life, to wellness. 

So ditch the excuses and do something for your health! 

XO, 

Erin 

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R&R…



Photo credit Pinterest. 

Hello fitness and wellness friends. I hope you’re still on your journey. I have been under the weather the past few weeks. Therefore,  working out has ceased to happen. I don’t recommend working out when you’re sick…let your body heal. 

This is my pre sickness face…I was exhausted. Should’ve tipped me off that a cold was coming… 



I could’ve slept for months… 

I also ceased eating food because it all tasted the same, bland.

So what do you do when life kicks you in the teeth and lays you on your face? You rest! You hydrate! You take vitamins. You relax!!! 

Saturday I slept 12 hours. Yes! 

Rest is just as important as working out. Give your body time to heal. Sometimes we push too hard, we neglect rest…we end up sick. 

I was surrounded by sick teammates and an overwhelming stressful program. Stress weakens the immune system. So it’s good to rest! 

Do you need some R&R? 

What activities do you do to replenish your mind, body, and soul? 

How are you taking time to just be and not do?  

What part of your workout routine involves rest? 

I hope to back in the fitness game soon! Keep up the good work. Cheering for you!!

Warm Regards,

Erin 

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Boundaries!

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Hello fitness friends! Tonight I wanted to talk to you about something that will improve your emotional health and wellness. It’s called boundaries.

Boundaries are the parameters we set up with other people to let them know what’s allowed and what is not allowed. Boundaries keep us from being used, violated, mistreated, overworked, or burned out. Stress is a killer. A lack of boundaries leads to stress!

We determine what we allow and what we won’t allow in our lives. We are also called to learn and respect the boundaries of other people.

So how do you establish boundaries? Here are some practical tips.

1. Say no to things that violate your conscience, morals, goals, or are harmful.

Sometimes you have to say no to what’s good to have something that’s great. Every opportunity is not the best opportunity. You have the right to say no.

2. Figure out what makes you uncomfortable and speak your truth.

I’m not advocating complaining, being a know it all, or pushing your opinions on people. I am advocating telling people not to stop by unannounced, to not call after certain times, to keep their hateful opinions to themselves, to mind their own business, to do their own work, to treat you with respect…don’t allow people to dump on you. If you can’t stop the behavior with words, you can walk away. I’ve walked away from people who like to argue or are disrespectful. They can talk to themselves.

3. Set the standard.

People see how you treat yourself and how you talk to yourself. Treat yourself well and as though you are valuable. You have tremendous value and so do others.

4. Don’t let negative or toxic people take up most of your space.

A good way to stop the negativity or complaining is to ask the person, “What are you going to do about your problem?” or “I’d love to hear what’s going well in your life!” There’s nothing wrong with listening to a friend vent. If you continue to allow people to dump their problems on you, you will end up stressed, whether you feel it consciously or not.

5. Seek balance.

Working too much, giving too much, taking too much, eating or drinking too much…all stretch boundaries. Balance and moderation is key. Too much of a good thing can be just as toxic as the wrong thing.

Boundaries don’t make you a diva or a selfish jerk. Boundaries mean you respect yourself and others. The best way to cut back on stress is to set boundaries. Don’t violate others boundaries and don’t allow others to violate your boundaries.

Life requires balance and boundaries. Health requires balance and boundaries. Wishing you a well balanced life!

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The Beginning

It all started with exhaustion…

You know you are tired when no amount of sleep helps. You go to bed tired. You wake up tired. You live tired. I tried running because maybe my body needed a more strenuous workout to prep it for slumber. Epic failure! I was simply exhausted. The doctor’s said, “You’re fine. Your blood work is normal. There is nothing physically wrong with you.” Well, there was something wrong. Here’s the list of the culprits that were draining my life of energy. Maybe you will see the same issues in your life.

1. My high stress job. I won’t complain, as I am thankful to be employed. However, stress if not managed will cause damage to your health and immune system.

2. Poor nutrition. Yes, I was one of those people who ate what was quick and felt lousy because of poor choices with food.

3. Lack of relaxation. Along with my job, I was also hosting and leading a women’s group, volunteering in the community, working on writing books, and not taking time for myself. I rarely had time alone, and there was no real chill time. And my body was ticked off about it.

4. Toxic relationships. Some people we can not get away from, like family. Other’s we have to pick and choose. If you surround yourself with people who are negative, pessimistic, doom and gloom, continually gossip about people, are hot-tempered, etc…your body will respond to it as stress.

5. Lack of water. I am a Researcher. I don’t have the liberty all the time to run out to the ladies room. It’s not possible. So, dehydration became a way of life. We need water to live and survive.

How do you get out of the rut? It starts with a decision. Do you want the best life possible? Are you willing to do what it takes to have that life? If so, then make a decision to change. The change starts with you. You can’t force other people to change, but you can change yourself.

How did I do it? I started with taking things off my schedule and my plate. I resigned from my women’s group. Attendance had diminished, and I was putting far more effort into than I should. I started drinking water. Seventy Five (75) days ago I gave up sugar, processed foods, white bread, white rice, high glycemic foods, and switched to whole foods. I started arranging my work schedule so there were breaks, and I could eat every 4 hours. I started taking classes such as Krav Maga, boxing, and even going to a massage therapist. I stopped spending time with people who were dragging my spirit into the dumps or treating me like a garbage can (i.e. gossiping about others). I surrendered busyness, and set firm boundaries with people. Sometimes, you have to say no! Do you hear me? NO! No, I can not help you. No, I cannot be there for you. No, I cannot add another activity to my plate. It feels selfish, but if you don’t learn balance, you will kill yourself. You’ll die, everyone else will keep on living.

Dear friends, the world is an amazing place waiting to be explored. What on earth are you waiting for? Ask yourself, “What am I doing to live the best life possible?” The choice is up to you. No one can live life for you. You have to make a decision, and set your eyes on the prize! Be kind to yourself. You cannot love your neighbor as yourself, if you don’t love yourself.

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Hello world!

Hello new friends,

You are beautiful. I decided to start this blog to capture my journey to wellness. What is wellness? Here’s a definition straight from dictionary.com.

wellness

1. the quality or state of being healthy in body and mind, especially as the result of deliberate effort.

2. an approach to healthcare that emphasizes preventing illness and prolonging life, as opposed to emphasizing treating diseases.

Who doesn’t want to be healthy? I believe we all do. The problem lies in our fast paced lives and go-go-go culture. We are getting sicker and fatter. People say they don’t have time to shop for healthy food or prepare meals or exercise or take time to relax. Well, when we don’t take the time, our bodies will force us to through sickness, stress, and even possibly disease. So,  join me on this journey. You’ll find tips, recipes, and more! May you be restored mind, body, spirit, and soul!
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